dont lt it get that far

Embracing the triumphs of the feminine

              Spirit

Episode 21

Don’t let it get that far!

According to McKinney Hammond, “any guy that comes close to you in the first place is interested. It’s now how we stir the relationships we have with those guys that determines whether they are going to the “friend zone” or a “higher zone”

Well, I know this may cause a lot of controversy (you can leave your comments) but personally I feel it’s true. As young ladies, we should be careful of signals we pass across to guys that come close to us just so we don’t pass wrong signals to them. Also as a young lady, in order not to play with your heart, NEVER assume you are in a relationship with a guy until he SAYS you are in a relationship. This is the problem with us.

 This guy comes along, acts all nice, buys you gifts, takes you out, calls you always and does all those nice things. So not only do you assume he likes you, you also go ahead to assume you guys are in a relationship so you go ahead to enter into a relationship where you are all alone but you think you two are in it together. Then one day, you ask him “hey duke, who am I to you? And you are at the other end of the line smiling sheepishly and expecting to hear what you think is right and then he says, “ummm we are just friends and may even go ahead to say how you are such a good friend and tells you of a girl at work that he likes” say what!! Really! And you have a heart break when there wasn’t even any relationship in the first place. AwwwnL

Ladies, no matter how nice a guy acts, never assume. You may be the type that is so used to having nasty and hostile guys around and when one nice one comes, you are like” aha! Someone finally loves me” A way to stop this is, as soon as you notice he is being unusually nice, stop him and ask him what he wants. If he calls you every day, ask him why? Where is this headed to? If he says “friends” then tell him your “friends” don’t call you everyday for no reason and after that, draw the line!

And let me also give you a tip of how these guys do it sometimes. Sometimes, they are actually interested but they won’t say it. You know that whole relationship theory of “the one who loves the least has the power? good, they use that here sometimes. So he comes, give you all the attention you need, calls you every hour, and buys gifts. You know what he is trying t do? Make you fall in love with him. Then you do! Well, he has the upper hand cos you have fallen for him but you still don’t know if he is interested. So when he finally says he is, you may have gone way too deep in your feelings. But am not saying its all guys that do this. My point is when you realize things are getting too “good” stop the train and ask where it is headed. If it is the wrong destination or no destination at all, come down from that train girl!